At every Healing Ceremony I help my client create an intention. To name a state of being they want to be living right now. I’ve listened to thousands of life stories and noticed that although particulars vary, a few themes re-occur.

I am Safe, Whole, Connected, and Loved could be everyone’s intention.

Safe: Most of us do not feel safe, and safety is a foundational aspect of healing. How can we move on if, on some level, we’re afraid? A fifty year old woman might be living a life where, on the outside, safety is a non-issue. She has a loving family, a beautiful house, good job, friends. She appears happy, yet on the inside, she’s depressed and living the fears of her child self.  Until the child KNOWS she’s safe and can exhale………… the woman will continue struggling with deep-rooted anxiety.

Whole: Most people feel fragmented and are unable to find themselves. They carry on, yet never feel quite “home.” I’ve heard so many times: “Something is missing.” “I’m searching for my people” “Where is my home?” “I don’t feel myself.”

Connected: The core Human wound is the illusion of separation from Source. This can be extreme, as when a person feels cast out, or believes they’re here by mistake. Many of us feel separate no matter how good our life looks. The leader of our country is a prime example of someone living separation. Mother Teresa is an example of one who knew we’re all the same person.

Loved: Love binds the universe and unifies all Beings. Why do so many feel unloved? We looked to our parents for unconditional love which ideally, grew our self-love. Whether they were the best or worst of parents, they’re Human, and thus flawed, and were/are unable to give us the unconditional love we deserve. How could they? They never received it themselves.

I had a student who once said, “I don’t do self-love.” I saw a wounded, frightened woman. Two years later, I see a courageous woman reclaiming herself while being lovingly supported by more friends she ever thought possible. She chose to heal. She chose to believe in self-love and actually love herself. These decisions now inform her entire life.

Everyone has opportunities to take responsibility for their healing. We have choices. Are we willing to be vulnerable? Attend to the child within? Find ways of recovering lost or fragmented parts of ourself? Explore paths that help us feel connected to one another, the earth, the universe? No one can heal alone; we need helpers, midwives. What keeps you from asking for help?

I had a traumatic childhood that influenced my entire life.  In my late twenty’s I began a conscious healing path, and I continue unfolding and seeking guidance today. My Divine parents, Ezekiel and Guadalupe, offer me unconditional love. This  grows my compassion for my Human parents and the experiences that shaped their lives. Sustained by my spiritual perspective, experiences, and chosen family, I offer all I’ve learned to you.

Put your hands on your heart/soul space in the center of your chest. Take a deep breath and say, “I am safe, whole, connected, and loved.” Claim yourself. Choose to be vulnerable, and ask for help.  Life is only about eighty-five years, if we’re lucky. How do you want to live yours?